🩵 You Are Worthy: Rediscovering Self-Love After Abuse

I forgot who I was.

Somewhere between the name-calling, the silent treatments, the forced apologies, and the years of walking on eggshells, I lost her—the real me.
The one who used to laugh loudly. The one who wore bright lipstick and danced in the kitchen.
The one who used to believe she was smart, capable, and beautiful.

Abuse doesn’t always show up as bruises.

Sometimes, it shows up as shame, self-doubt, and a slow erasing of your identity.

If you’re reading this, and you feel broken… I want you to know this:

You are not broken.

You are healing.
You are not crazy.

You’ve been conditioned.

And most importantly—you are worthy.

💔 What Emotional Abuse Does to Your Self-Worth

Emotional and narcissistic abuse is invisible to the outside world, but it leaves scars that go deep.

• You start apologising for things that aren’t your fault.
• You question your memory, your reality, your truth.
• You believe you’re the problem, and if you could just be “better,” they’d be kind again.
• You stop dreaming.
• You stop laughing.
• You stop recognising yourself.

And over time, you begin to believe the lies they told you:
That you’re difficult. That you’re unlovable. That no one else will ever want you. That you deserve it.

But here’s the truth:

Abuse distorts your reflection, but it doesn’t destroy your worth.

✨ Self-Love Isn’t a Spa Day – It’s Reclaiming Yourself

Let’s be honest. When you’ve been emotionally broken down, the idea of “self-love” can feel like a joke.

It’s not candles and bubble baths.
It’s not “just be kind to yourself” when your inner voice has been poisoned by years of cruelty.

Real self-love after abuse looks like this:

• Saying “no” and not explaining yourself.
• Listening to your gut again, even when it shakes.
• Looking in the mirror and whispering “you didn’t deserve that.”
• Not chasing people who ghost you or guilt you.
• Resting. Eating. Existing—without guilt.
• Forgiving yourself for staying. And for surviving.

It’s choosing you, one small, brave moment at a time.

🌱 How to Start Loving Yourself Again (Even If You Don’t Believe It Yet)

If you’re struggling to feel anything but numb, that’s okay.
You’re not behind. You’re not doing it wrong.
You’re surviving—and that is enough for today.

But when you’re ready, try this:

1. Write a Letter to the You Before It All Changed

Tell her what she didn’t know. Apologise to her. Thank her for hanging on.

2. Speak Kindly to Your Reflection Once a Day

Even if it feels fake. Even if it’s just: “You’re trying. I’m proud of you.”

3. Start a Worthiness List

Write one reason you’re worthy—every day. Even if today’s is: “I made it through.”

4. Block or Silence Toxic Voices

You do not owe access to people who make you feel less than.

5. Choose One Small Thing That’s Just for You

A solo walk. A quote saved in your notes. A £1 lipstick. A playlist that makes you feel alive.

💡 You Are Still In There, I Promise

She didn’t disappear.
The girl who was bold and bright. The woman who had dreams. The mum who wanted more for her children.
She’s still there—buried under years of “you’re not enough.”

But every time you read something like this, every time you think “maybe I could get better,”
you’re pulling her closer. You’re coming home to yourself.

And you don’t have to wait until you’ve left.
You don’t have to be healed, perfect, or ready.

You just have to start believing that you are worthy of love, peace, safety, joy—and your own damn life.

🔥 Your Power Step Today:

💬 Write this on a sticky note and put it somewhere hidden just for you:
“I am worthy. I am healing. And I am not what they told me I was.”

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